Marriage

Today’s blog would be different compared to the normal things we write about, it’s about a wedding that we attended and how it hit us that one day all of us would go down that long walk to sit on the bridal seats. The day that would be would go down in personal history of each other as one the happiest moments in life. It got us thinking that, at this age it would not be too far as we expected and that it may just be around the corner.

The essence of this post is certainty, how does one be certain that the person we are walking with together on that red carpet or whatsoever color is the “ONE”, it seems only women question themselves in this issue as men remain uncertain and try their best to deflect from the very thought because it gives them shivers. I wouldn’t blame them, as it would be a really big deal for it is an oath of eternity between to souls connected and sealed in bond.

Life in our humble opinion is in itself the uncertainty of the journey we take, and the decisions between two choices that lie in front of us. The greatness of living is the journey itself not the destination, thus would contradict with the thought how can we be sure of the “ONE”?

Well, after a long thought about it we came to a conclusion that no one is ever certain about the “ONE” and that’s the beauty of life, what we can be certain of is that we ourselves should understand the oath that we make and be certain to carry out the oath said and the pact made between the two and God the almighty.

It came to our attention, that hey the bride and groom will always have moments of when the stomach feels small and everything around us seems to move a faster speed that we can cope but in the end like people before us they remain strong not out of certainty of the other person but out of determination, passion that they would do all they can honor the words uttered and the actions constructed upon.

Thus, we wish that all the readers out there, don’t be scared of uncertainty of the other but be certain of yourself that you are ready, packed to go. J

The Golden Rule

Why do we insist in fighting with each other?

Is it because of our need to win? To dominate?

Or is it because of an unexplainable nature that we human's have?

Well, enough of the introductions to get your head thinking, what im trying to convey to all is that though we may be of different race, colour or religion in the end we all bleed the same, and the colour of blood remains red. we do not bleed in blue like how John Carter was portrayed in its fiction.

An example of how similar we are is the golden rule that all religion and beliefs follow, under here is the sayings of various religion and men who have followers who believe in them.

Christianity	All things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye so to them; for this is the law and the prophets. Matthew 7:1
Confucianism	Do not do to others what you would not like yourself. Then there will be no resentment against you, either in the family or in the state. Analects 12:2
Buddhism	Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful. Udana-Varga 5,1
Hinduism	This is the sum of duty; do naught onto others what you would not have them do unto you. Mahabharata 5,1517
Islam	No one of you is a believer until he desires for his brother that which he desires for himself. Sunnah
Judaism	What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellowman. This is the entire Law; all the rest is commentary. Talmud, Shabbat 3id
Taoism	Regard your neighbor’s gain as your gain, and your neighbor’s loss as your own loss. Tai Shang Kan Yin P’ien
Zoroastrianism	That nature alone is good which refrains from doing another whatsoever is not good for itself. Dadisten-I-dinik, 94,5

A perfect example of the universality of the world and the way we think. Stop all the hating.

Regret and Remorse

The dictionary meaning would tell us that it is a state of mind after realizing that we have done wrong. What the dictionary fails to explain is how it haunts you’re your life like a parasite stuck on your mind, playing games on your head how we had such a role in the undoing or hurting of another. That’s regret and remorse.

The easier road would be to simply forget and move on, but there are those who choose the hardest of roads yet most profound for it helps us to grow into a better person. The hardest road would let us reel in the hurt and mix it with remorse so that we have such a understanding of what went wrong and what should be done. It is this road that we learn to adapt to the world and how imperfect it is. In the end, it is not the strongest that survive but the ones most susceptible to change and adapt survives.

A simple organism would be the cockroach that is said to have been here during the days of the big bang, well no matter how far that theory goes we see cockroaches everywhere and they continue to survive after numerous attempts to eradicate them. Try annihilating all the cockroaches in your house, and I’ll promise you there will be more.

Mistakes

Mistake a common word used but the usage of the word was meant to mean admittance and acceptance of a wrong doing, in modern times it has changed into somewhat a more progressive meaning, mistake is pointing fingers out to thee who made the mistake. Older times, mistake for was admitting ones own wrong rather then blaming another, mistake was asking for forgiveness of such mistake now is tell tales, and blaming each other.

How far has the olden values of honor, loyalty and brotherhood fallen deep into the sands of time long forgotten, we may catch a glimpse of such values in people but merely a glimpse of past glory of what made man whole.

Now looking back at the things i have done, I can never forgive myself for all the pain and hurt i've caused, but only a mere admittance to my mistakes is what i can give. Im sorry to everyone who i have hurt no matter how big the deed. Im really sorry.

I also want to thank a few people who changed me into what i am today, so that i may at least stand among my peers as equals if not less. Thank you to those who saw the good in me when no one else did. Thank you for showing me the world and filling my life with laughters though i have only caused pain.

Why guys who play DOTA make the best life partners

(Disclaimer: This is not written by me..and for goodness’ sake those with a sorry excuse for a sense of humour please don’t read this.)

Single-hearted devotion: He is willing to invest a lot of time and effort in pursuing the hobby he loves. In the future, he will be a successful career-minded professional who puts his heart and soul into what he does. Besides, a devoted man is an attractive man. The next time he is concentrating on a DOTA game, take a good look at him, and you may find him attractive in ways you never did notice before.

Indomitable spirit: Every DOTA-er starts from being a newb. Every DOTA player inevitably goes through the long and painful process of feeding and farming only a Boots of Speed and 2 Wraith Bands (not bracers coz too expensive) at 30mins. If he doesn’t have a never-say-die-attitude, he would have given up long ago. So, every DOTA player possess strong will and fighting spirit. And such a man, is of course, more reliable and can be depended upon.

Gentlemanly: A DOTA player is gentlemanly. Even when he gets thrashed badly, he will still say GG (good game) to the opponent at the end of the game. At the most, just try again another day.

Extraordinary patience: DOTA cultivates patience. The opponent might be owning 10 minutes into the game, but a good DOTA player will persevere on and wait patiently for a chance to turn the tables. He will hang on tightly and continue to farm, gank (and sometimes KS if given the opportunity), until he gets the chance to wipe out the opponent team and make the winning push. Similarly in life, you can be sure that he will not PP (pull plug) but will hold your hand and endure the hardships together.

Extremely durable punchbag: Every DOTA-er would surely have been at the mercy of imba magic spells before, those that would make anyone pee in their pants, like Reverse Polarity+ Black hole, a Lion+Lina lane etc, or a Blink+Echo Slam when you are Broodmother pushing with a thousand spiderlings around you. So you can be sure that he makes a good punchbag when you need one, especially on those bad days.

Attentive and sensitive: A good DOTA player an observant one. One of the basic skills of DOTA is to be observant of your surroundings, of every move your opponent makes or is planning to make. Therefore, when he is spending time with you, he will be very sensitive to your feelings. Every frown or smile will not pass by unnoticed. He will lend a listening ear when you are troubled, his shoulder will be there when you need to cry (or are just feeling tired). He will offer words of comfort when you are feeling down. Can you find anyone better?

Lightning reflexes: Another basic requirement of DOTA is to have fast reflexes. Slowpokes are doomed to die in DOTA, because by the time you find the hotkey for Voodoo, you would have been killed by Invoker’s Tornado+Chaos Meteor, possibly followed up by Cold Snap. You don’t need to be as agile as Jet Li to get by in life, but there is no harm in having a partner who can react quickly to real-life situations.

IT-savvy: A DOTA player is more knowledgeable about computers and the net than the average guy. Any DOTA player would be able to talk, at some length, about graphic cards, CPU, mice, keyboards, bandwidth speeds etc. In this day and age, it can be embarassing if your partner is computer-illiterate. With a DOTA player as a spouse, you can be sure that all your kids will grow up to be tech-savvy, capable individuals.

Remarkable mental strength: Constant psychological pressure during DOTA is a norm. You never know when a Nerubian Assasin will pop out from nowhere, annihilating you within seconds. You can never be sure if a Pudge+CM is lying in wait at the secret shop. Hence, you can be assured that the DOTA player will not crumble easily in the face of real-life pressures, because he is so accustomed to handling such circumstances and the hours of DOTA has increased his mental endurance.

Effective planner: If you fail to plan in DOTA, you plan to fail. Rush headlong into a teamfight without planning and you will be waiting for respawn next. A good DOTA player is adept at planning, calculating risks and making judgements. To initiate a gank or not, how to position your character is but some of the many decisions you have to make throughout the game. Thus, the pro DOTA player is a careful and meticulous one. He will plan a party on your birthday, and plan a surprise for your anniversary.

Reliable breadwinner: Money makes the world go round. Farming for gold is of utmost importance in DOTA. Without items, your imba skills at micro/macro management cannot guarantee victory. The long and arduous process of farming for gold (especially reaching that elusive 3800 for a Relic) requires a lot of skill and technique. Hence, rest assured that a pro DOTA-er will always bring home the bacon, and lots of it. The husband earns for you to spend. What more can you ask for?

Faithful partner: DOTA players are loyal lovers. They are able to resist the flaming hot Lina or that sexy Rylai, and mercilessly send them back to where they came from (fountain), despite their charming looks. DOTA players will not be tempted so easily.

Team and community spirit: -Good- DOTA players are self-sacrificing. They always put themselves before others. They have good teamwork, and are willing to sacrifice themselves for the greater good. They don’t mind letting the team’s main DPS hero get the kill. This kind of person is not self-centred, and will place the family or society above self.

Not all DOTA players may display all the points listed above, but that’s only because you haven’t discovered these attributes yet. Look a little harder, and give yourselves a little more time. You will not regret it.

Timing

Like stated in the title, timing is something a lot people believe is factor to whether something works or not. Timing for what to say, what to do and such. I never believed time should limit whatever we do.

Time to is not to limit us, but for us to value what we have, to appreciate the meaning of time. Example, should a time frame be put when we fall in love? It can be minutes, hours, days or even months and years. I believe it happens when it does.

Time if limits us, would let us give to fear that we aren't following the normal standards of time. Well should we? Time is planning, not a fact we must follow to the t. Time is a mere guideline maybe but never more. When it is more it would govern our lives to much.

Tribute of a beautiful song

"A New Chapter"

I walk these streets alone
I see the world around me changing
I'm in a dream
Faces that I knew
Are slowly turning into strangers
I've never seen
I read each line I turn the page
I laugh and cry at this true story
It's time for a new chapter to begin

[Chorus:]
Why does love fall easily for some
When will it ever come to me
How do I show you what burns inside my heart
I'm not just who you want me to be, to be

I hide out here sometimes
I watch the sunlight leave the skyline
Here I am safe
I close my eyes and sleep
Tomorrow brings another journey
That I will take
I read each line like it's the last
I know this book, this time has passed
I need a new chapter to begin

[Chorus]

I walk these streets alone
I see the world around me changing
I'm in a dream
How do I show you what burns inside my heart
I'm not just who you want me to be, to be

A song that was introdued from zack, didn't know who he had such exquisite taste, a song of how truly hard it is to accept heartbreaks and to move on. Its always easy to tell someone everythings going to be alright, but unless we venture in the realm of hopelessness itself it never is easy. Favorite line would be, "Im in a dream" how ironic it is to be in love is pictured as a dream and even after it ended we are but still stuck in such a dream.